As I am writing this post "Ode to My Family" by "The Cranberries" comes to mind (just right click to download- link here)!
I was like the only one there without a kid and possibly the only gay one amongst a sea of heterosexuals. Don't get me wrong, I hang with these guys all the time, but at family time it's nice to see that side of them! I fully love them for that, and I do appreciate and value their friendship!
My good friend Jon with some kids - not all are his :)
As an answer to the above - I'm thinking I want kids, and I'd like the family lifestyle - it's nice to be able to take care of kids and feel wanted. But with all my relationships - I eventually become introvert and in search of space for my sanity - so I enjoy my alone time! Which is the greater evil here?
Anyways peeps - just some random ramblings - TTYL!
I appreciate that you want children. Oddly enough, I knew I didn't want children long before I realized I'm gay.
ReplyDeleteI didn't want children until I was older than most. I have to have alone time.. a lot of it. As my children have gotten older I do get it. When they are younger it is certainly more difficult.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you have the best of both worlds, friends with kids you can enjoy and plenty of time to yourself.
PS thanks again for the tickets, it was a fad show
I think God gives people hormones when they're young so that they (well, the str8 ones) have kids before they can really think about it. I think as one gets older the desire to have children lessens. Or if one does have children they have only one, so that they can put the time and attention into the responsibility of raising a child. It is a huge responsibility!
ReplyDeleteHello Behmark - I was like that too from a young age - but the situation on Saturday just got me a-thinking!
ReplyDeleteHello VL - glad you enjoyed the show - and yes - I do have the best of both worlds!
Jim - interesting theory. I guess it would make sense to have a greater drive when one is younger - I guess everyone (or most people anyways) wants the dream!
I'm definitely in the camp of 'not wanting kids'. However, I do love seeing my niece and nephews.
ReplyDeleteHello Rob - I have 5 nieces and nephews and three God children - I love being around kids all the time about ten years ago but now my time with them is like 30 mins max!
ReplyDeleteAs a newly-out gay father of three (ages 14 to 19), I wouldn't have traded being a parent for anything in the world. But the problem with parenting is that it's an all-or-nothing proposition and I've been at it for nearly 20 years! Exhausting!!! I now really enjoy, in fact savour, the odd day when I get to be by myself.
ReplyDeleteHello BB - my partner has two kids - so I now the struggles abit. Granted I'm there but it's never easy, but the trials make us so much stronger!
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